Take Action!

Being home for winter break has turned into a massive baking fest in lieu of what seems to be a near constant romcom marathon. Bake a key lime pie... watch Sleepless in Seattle, make some chocolate chip cookies...watch Room With A View. Low point? I dunno, sometimes a gal just feels like watching someone fall in love.

Still, they have their problems and many of them I can't stand. What is the deal with Pride and Prejudice, and why are women so intrigued by Mr. Darcy?

He seems like a pompous ass who barely says anything until they go to fucking Brighton, well he still doesn't say much of anything but I guess it's enough to fall in love or whatever. He even insults her social status in the same breath as his proposal to her. Maybe it's the rain storm or something that has everyone salivating over him. I dunno, I'm not really convinced. Deal breaker, ladies! If you haven't seen it check it out.


Awhile ago a friend and I started talking about how you watch romantic movies based on how you relate with the opposite sex. So, let's say a misogynist bro would be more inclined to watch movies with movies where the men are clearly in control and the women just sort of fall in the background usually being less intelligent or just weak in character. That is sometimes why we enjoy movies, we relate to or see an idealized/fantasy version of our selves in one of the characters.

My favorite movie of all is Amélie. She goes through life helping others, reminding them how beautiful life can be while neglecting her own happiness. Until she becomes tangled in an exciting adventure of stratagems and near missed connections with her soul mate! She almost lets him slip through her fingers until a friend of hers reminds her to just be more adventurous. Here's a translated version of the scene:

So, little Amélie, your bones aren't made of glass. You can take life's knocks. If you let this chance go by, eventually your heart will become as dry and brittle as my skeleton. So... Go and get him, for Pete's sake!

This is what I like to live by. I love to take chances, and I try to advise my friends to do the same. Something I've told them many times is we often regret what we do not do more than the embarrassing things we end up doing. So take some chances! Do something unexpected and it will probably be totally worth it.

In the summer of 2009, I drove over five hours for a first date even though I knew that in the fall I was going to be spending 4 months in London, so the likelihood of anything happening long term was somewhat slim. Turns out it was a wonderful evening (he actually refers to it as the Date Of Legend) and well, fast forward to now we are currently living together! It might have been foolish to drive so far just to go on a date, when we never even spent time alone together before that night but sometimes you just have to take action. So, go get it! Love is out there!